True Love – is it real?
By Marta Rabiej
“I know of only one duty and that is to love” ~ Albert Camus
“Love yourself, it is important to stay positive, because beauty comes from the inside out” ~ Jenn Proske
Love is one of the most important parts of our lives. From day one we are “programmed” to search for it, have it, give it, be it. We are coming to this world as the expressions of Divine Love, and Its creation. Even though we cannot see our Creator with our physical eyes, we are created in his likeness. That means we are also very powerful and we are able to create. In fact, we create everything, everyday. Our thoughts become our habits, our habits become our beliefs, and our beliefs create our reality. How does this tie to unconditional and everlasting love? Our Creator has unconditional love for us, at all time. We are his most beloved creations. Nothing we do or think makes us less loved. Only we, humans, put conditions on love for ourselves, or other human beings.
When we are born, we have all the confidence, love, and strength we need to survive. Baby’s smile can melt everyone’s heart, and that’s enough for us to return love, and care for this tiny and adorable being, who cannot do anything for himself at first. But one little smile has a power to change everything in his favor. So, what happens to us later on, when we get older? How come it all changes and becomes so difficult to “find” love?
That’s a question we should ask ourselves. What happens down the road when we have different experiences in our life? We “learn” that we are not the center of the universe, as we thought we were. We realize that in many cases love has conditions. For example, if we act “good” and do not cause any problems, we are rewarded by those who provide for us, so we quickly realize that there are certain mechanisms, which “trigger” other people’s expression of love or other feelings for us.
During our childhood we also learned that we have limits. If we encountered situations that resulted in painful memories and feelings (like shame, fear, or anger, when we were made fun of, or someone stronger was trying to take advantage of us) those situations got deeply ingrained in our minds, bringing same feelings in similar circumstances. And those traumatic emotions from childhood resulted in accepting fears as true picture of ourselves. When if fact we adapted these false beliefs in such early years that we had no chance to question or change them. Allowing those beliefs to create painful “reality” without giving it another thought.
Love is our true nature. It is our foundation. And if we have hard time finding it, it’s because we are looking in the wrong places. Or because due to painful memories we buried it so deeply down in our soul that it seems like we don’t have it. However, true love is not a myth and we can experience it once we understand that we are not “broken”, and do not need to find anyone who would “complete” us. We need to realize that we are the only ones putting limits on ourselves! And once we conquer those limiting beliefs and start vibrating in higher frequencies, we start attracting “better” things and experiences.
Everything shifts when we come into harmony with ourselves. When we are able to look at our reflection in the mirror and have appreciation for who we are without judgement, self-criticism, and without negative emotions. So, don’t put conditions on compassion for yourself, like others did when you were little. Yes, we all make mistakes on our path, but that is called learning and evolving. And the truth is, we are more focused on negative experiences than on our accomplishments. We live with a conviction that we have to “fit” into someone else’s standards, before we could accept ourselves, or be proud of who we are. And that is a hard obstacle to overcome, which leads to frustrations, disappointments, resignation, and depression.
What would it take for you to believe in yourself and all that you are? What would it take for you to know that the Divine Light and Love that is inside of you is greater than any challenge, obstacle, or anything you are having difficulty with? What would it take for you to realize that you are ONE with the greatest power in the entire universe?
If you are ready to “find” love you need to start with yourself. Accept the fact that you are a powerful creator and your biggest power is LOVE. Give up all ideas that limit you or make you feel inadequate, or incompetent. Simply, start looking at yourself like you are the most important thing in the universe. Look through your heart, not your ego. Give yourself credit for all positive accomplishments and learn how to show others that they matter. The saying “what goes around it comes around” describes precisely the circle of life. And I can say that if you send out positive vibes, by being kind, compassionate, and loving, in dealings with yourself and others, those positive feelings will return to you magnified.
I’m not saying that you have to love your addictions (to food, drama, or other forms and negative actions), but have respect for yourself and be honest with yourself about the feelings you are not dealing with. Don’t hide behind excuses. Let go of things that do not work for you. If you know that you need to make changes in your life, take small steps, stick with them, and ask for help or surround yourself with positive, supportive people who will cheer you on and keep you strong in tough times. Be kind and love yourself and others as they are. Do not try to change anyone, criticize, or harm them. Having a great sense of humor is not the same as making someone else being a butt of all the jokes, day in and day out. Be sensitive and listen to your intuition. It will guide you to love like a lighthouse guides ships to the safety of the port on a stormy night. Trust yourself and expect good things to come your way. The only thing keeping you from finding love is your belief that it’s not possible, so figure out when you got it and change it! Release the fears and allow your heart to receive love and compassion.
Forgive yourself and others. Make room for better and bigger things to come your way. Look inside to remember what made your heart sign with joy and make time to do it whenever things get stressful. Unleash your creativity and forget about what others think. Bob Moawad said “Creativity is God’s gift to you. What you do with it is your gift to God”. Use your imagination and see love all around you. Focus on crating and receiving love.
At the end of the day ask yourself: did you love enough? Did you laugh enough? Did you make a difference? And as you start your day, set an intention to experience each moment as a sacred gift. Be grateful for it and open your heart to receive miracles. Don’t be like those who wait all week for Friday, all year for summer, and all life for happiness. Realize that you are LOVE; shine it out bright to allow it to attract more of it to you.
If you don’t believe in miracles, perhaps you have forgotten that you are one!
“Beauty is simply reality seen with the eyes of love” ~ Evelyn Underhill
“Love is creative. It does not flow along the easy paths, spending itself in the attractive. It cuts new channels, goes where it is needed” ~ Evelyn Underhill
Marta Rabiej is a Reiki practitioner in Calgary, Alberta
You can reach her at Divine Frequencies